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Old 11-03-2009, 10:26 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Default Re: I forgot why I love my wife, need advice!

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Originally Posted by IcemanA View Post
She no longer accepts the slightest criticism, no matter how nicely phrased, and even if she does feel guilty about something she defects it with 'so now everything's MY fault, AGAIN' rather than just admitting a mistake.....pride and stubbornness has overcome her, which is the exact opposite of what I fell in love with.
It's very important that you continue to challenge her and state when she has done something that you don't like, (while putting it as nicely as possible). The reason I say this is that, if she detects that you are caving in to her she will hate you for it. Also, little by little, by being snappy, she could eventually turn you into a doormat if you allow it. I know this sounds ridiculous now, but over time, by constantly choosing to keep the peace, some men become doormats this way.

Throw in the fact that the passion is already evaporating, and you have the possibility of making some ugly music together, long term.

You did well to come here and use us as a sounding board. Your marriage can be fixed for sure, but it needs serious TLC
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