Originally Posted by sadwithouthim
Thanks JPR. That advice really helped. Now i just need to figure out what interests me. I cant seem to find anything to keep me focused. I think about him too much. He consumes my every thought. I just want him out of my damn head. I mean, i am doing things and getting out but need to find something that really takes my mind off him. Something i can find passion in. I just cant seem to find it.
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I know. It is hard. I went through the same thing. I would do things, and go out with friends and stuff...but, in the back of my mind, I would constantly be thinking of him. I felt like I was just "going through the motions". I would do things and "improve" myself in hopes that he would take notice and want me back in his life. My motivations were so screwed up, but I felt like I couldn't help it. I didn't know how to do things purely for my own enjoyment and happiness.
But, eventually, those thoughts of him did stop. When I found myself obsessing, that "mental stop sign" trick helped me a bit. ...and eventually I did find real joy in others.
It is still difficult at times...but, soooo much better than it once was.
You just have to hang in there, Sad. You are doing all the right things, I think. You'll find your passion again.