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Old 08-21-2012, 11:46 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by sadwithouthim View Post
So now he's questioning me and i wish i wouldn't have sent anything. I just want him out of my head.
Well, you did text him. So, just resolve this now, rather than playing an avoidance game with him that will just drag out hostility between you two of this kind.

Just be honest. Say, "I texted you because I thought it might be a good time to talk about the status of our relationship, but when I didn't hear from you right away, I set the phone aside. I fell asleep before you texted me back. I'm having doubts about whether I should bring this up, now. Would you like to discuss the situation? Let me know."

You wrote because you're getting mixed signals. Maybe he is willing to talk to about this. You've already gotten his attention, so there is no point in being evasive. Just be honest and let the chips fall where they may. Avoiding things is just going to antagonize him because it feels like you're playing games with him or trying to manipulate the outcome and it will stress you out, even more, too. Be strong. Face this directly and empower yourself with the reality of things.
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