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NightMare21 · 11-03-2009, 10:43 PM

Hello, I just discovered these boards.

We lost our 21 year old daughter to suicide September 23, 2009. Since the passing of Mandi, nothing has been the same. Not that I expected it to be. Some of our daily, normal routines have returned somewhat with the exception of a few things. We visit her grave every day. Hubby no longer gets text messages from her, I don't get to talk to her every day before I go to work and we no longer have to wonder where she is or what shes doing. When I come home from work, I still expect to see Mandi laying on the livingroom couch watching t.v.

I've noticed something else as well. Our marriage isn't the same as it was three months ago. We both seem very distant from each other. Almost "cold" to each other. There's just something different between us. Although, we don't put blame on one another for the death. It's hard to explain. While we still love each other it feels like the spark is gone and were just going through the motions of marriage. We've been married 26 years and this has never happened before.

It seems we're more like roomates now rather then husband and wife.

Will this pass?

11-03-2009, 10:43 PM	#1 (permalink)
NightMare21 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	Loss of our Daughter Hello, I just discovered these boards. We lost our 21 year old daughter to suicide September 23, 2009. Since the passing of Mandi, nothing has been the same. Not that I expected it to be. Some of our daily, normal routines have returned somewhat with the exception of a few things. We visit her grave every day. Hubby no longer gets text messages from her, I don't get to talk to her every day before I go to work and we no longer have to wonder where she is or what shes doing. When I come home from work, I still expect to see Mandi laying on the livingroom couch watching t.v. I've noticed something else as well. Our marriage isn't the same as it was three months ago. We both seem very distant from each other. Almost "cold" to each other. There's just something different between us. Although, we don't put blame on one another for the death. It's hard to explain. While we still love each other it feels like the spark is gone and were just going through the motions of marriage. We've been married 26 years and this has never happened before. It seems we're more like roomates now rather then husband and wife. Will this pass?