| | Re: My wife and my friend had an affair
All I can say...is from the cheaters end...
I cheated on my wife. It wasn't an affair, a one night stand. Still doesn't make it better. I cried, I apologized, I got angry. But it wasn't until I looked inside me and started to accept the fact that I did this that I could even start to make a little change.
I want so badly to keep my wife that even thinking a little negative causes me to break down either in rage or sadness. But I am working on making changes. I thought I was doing them for me but the more I do the better I feel. I can only hope that my wife sees this.
Sum things up, its up to both of you to want to make it work...you have to provide the forgiveness and the ability to move forward.
She has to provide the remorse and acceptance for what she did. Also she needs to be the one to provide the most changes and the willingness to work on what ever caused her to detach from you.