Originally Posted by swedish

Thanks for the additional info. it always helps when responding.

I'm glad to hear you are not a comfort food eater because if it's just a matter of bad eating habits/lack of exercise, it will be more of a matter of getting over those old cravings/habits and the more you see the results of how much better you look/feel the less you even want to go back, so that's all good.

I do think that most people find confident people attractive, even with extra pounds. There is a lot to be said for the way you carry yourself. I know for me personally this is true. I'm not sure if that's more what your husband is saying or if it truly is a weight issue, but I really think the best thing you can do is to put all of your energy into the things you are currently doing for yourself.

Saying he was lonely and wanted to cuddle to me is a really positive sign. I agree, baby steps.

The more excited you are about your new diet/exercise the more he will believe you are in it for the long haul because he will notice the difference in your energy level, mood, etc. This can seem almost impossible (to feel and be happy when you are worried about the state of your marriage) but sometimes if you focus on all of the progress you are making you can somewhat 'force' a good mood.

You can also try asking him to join in on the exercise...go for walks together, etc. One thing I would avoid is complaining about dieting/exercising in front of him. That might give him the impression that this is a quick fix that you cannot wait to finish and stop (not saying that you are, just another thought)