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constantconflict · 11-07-2009, 04:52 PM

Ok....I am 23, my husband and I have been married 3 years next week, and together for 5. We have 2 children- both under the age of two. He works SO much and is gone all of the time. I stay home with our kids, do online school, and countless other side jobs to help ends meet.

He does not ever initiate sex unless I bring up the fact that it has been 2wks, 3wks, a month sense the last time. He NEVER shows interest in me (kissing, touching, nothing.) I feel like we're just two people who happen to be living in the same house. I've accused and questioned him about everythign in the book to figure out WHY he is obviously not attracted to me. I am in the best shape of my life and other men find me attractive. His answer is that I gripe at him too much. I am so hurt and angered by not being wanted, because I "saved myself" for him. I am 23 and would like a little attention! I feel like I waited and waited and for what? It makes me wish I had gone through with it with other men who were actually wanting it!

Things have been getting progressively worse and worse and I am constantly feeling alone. Out of nowhere, an ex boyfriend of mine from high school contacts me via an online social community. He told me he had a dream about me, that I hadn't changed a bit, was precious in HS and am precious now, etc. I cannot help but feel attacted to him- it's because I am actually getting attention from someone.

I just don't know what to do. I'm scared to leave because I don't want to drag my children through a divorce and have to put them in daycare (since they're used to being with me all day everyday), but on the other hand, I don't want to raise 2 children in a house filled with fighting, yelling, bickering, and no love. I'm just so lost- I don't know what to do. He says "I love you" on the phone (usually after we've fought the whole time) and I just don't even feel like saying it back. So lost! I feel like I made a mistake by getting married and having kids so young (though both were not exactly planned)...I LOVE MY KIDS, but I feel trapped and now it's too late to go back.

11-07-2009, 04:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
constantconflict Registered User Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	So lost.... Ok....I am 23, my husband and I have been married 3 years next week, and together for 5. We have 2 children- both under the age of two. He works SO much and is gone all of the time. I stay home with our kids, do online school, and countless other side jobs to help ends meet. He does not ever initiate sex unless I bring up the fact that it has been 2wks, 3wks, a month sense the last time. He NEVER shows interest in me (kissing, touching, nothing.) I feel like we're just two people who happen to be living in the same house. I've accused and questioned him about everythign in the book to figure out WHY he is obviously not attracted to me. I am in the best shape of my life and other men find me attractive. His answer is that I gripe at him too much. I am so hurt and angered by not being wanted, because I "saved myself" for him. I am 23 and would like a little attention! I feel like I waited and waited and for what? It makes me wish I had gone through with it with other men who were actually wanting it! Things have been getting progressively worse and worse and I am constantly feeling alone. Out of nowhere, an ex boyfriend of mine from high school contacts me via an online social community. He told me he had a dream about me, that I hadn't changed a bit, was precious in HS and am precious now, etc. I cannot help but feel attacted to him- it's because I am actually getting attention from someone. I just don't know what to do. I'm scared to leave because I don't want to drag my children through a divorce and have to put them in daycare (since they're used to being with me all day everyday), but on the other hand, I don't want to raise 2 children in a house filled with fighting, yelling, bickering, and no love. I'm just so lost- I don't know what to do. He says "I love you" on the phone (usually after we've fought the whole time) and I just don't even feel like saying it back. So lost! I feel like I made a mistake by getting married and having kids so young (though both were not exactly planned)...I LOVE MY KIDS, but I feel trapped and now it's too late to go back.