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aberrant · 11-09-2009, 07:54 AM

Thanks for the advice all.

When she got home I asked her and she told me about the text messages.

I also brought up her switching away from night shift, and framed it as a "for your own good" because it has caused her to become depressed. She seemed receptive.

The problem, Mommy22, is that both of us have NOT decided to work through this. She is still living with me at the suggestion of our counselor, but she has decided that it will never work between us. Our counselor convinced her she should wait until her head is straight before making such a big decision but she is set that we will never work.

That is what is so hard, I feel like I am trying to do this by myself.

11-09-2009, 07:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
aberrant Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 11	Re: Question for those who survived an affair Thanks for the advice all. When she got home I asked her and she told me about the text messages. I also brought up her switching away from night shift, and framed it as a "for your own good" because it has caused her to become depressed. She seemed receptive. The problem, Mommy22, is that both of us have NOT decided to work through this. She is still living with me at the suggestion of our counselor, but she has decided that it will never work between us. Our counselor convinced her she should wait until her head is straight before making such a big decision but she is set that we will never work. That is what is so hard, I feel like I am trying to do this by myself.