LostnSD

New to the forum. I was looking for some marriage advice articles and stumbled across the site.

Here's the background. I have been married for 17 years this past September. When we were first married...I did everything I could to ensure that my world revolved around my wife. Cooking, cleaning, making lunches, auto upkeep, you name it...I probably did it. There was never a day that went by without me letting her know how I felt about her.

But over time I am feeling more and more used and unappreciated. It kinda came to head one evening when I was in a hurry to get my youngest daughter to her dance class and was running late. When my wife and my oldest daughter came home I told them I made a quick supper for my youngest and needed to go. Her reply to me was "well...what about us". Since then my feelings toward her have just slowly gone downward. I don't remember the last time we had sex...she just never seems interested.

As odd as this sounds...I yearn simply for a touch...holding hands, a hug...just something. If you were to ask me if I still lover her...I dunno would be my honest answer. I have stopped wearing my wedding ring for a couple of weeks now. If she has noticed...she isn't saying anything. I have never cheated on my wife...but the temptation is getting stronger. I just want to be "wanted"...by somebody...anybody.

And to complicate matters...I am developing feelings toward somebody else. I know the feelings are unhealthy and I need to resolve the issues with my wife...but just not sure how.

If there is anybody out there that has been in my shoes...how did you handle it?

Thanks
LostnSD