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Originally Posted by Amplexor
What ever the relationship is with the other woman, end it now. You will never be able to recover your relationship with your wife with another in the picture. Even as an option. As for your wife, do you feel she takes advantage of your work around the house or does she simply not put any value on it? Consider reading The Five Languages of Love. It appears the two of you may be missing each other's language.
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I have no relationship with the other woman. She is unaware of my feelings and I am trying my damndest to make them go away. Little hard to ignore them since I have to work with her...but working on it.
I feel like its just assumed that I am going to do the laundry, or make supper, or this or that. I feel like I am just taken for granted, that I have no value. Thats probably the main reason I haven't gone farther with those "feelings" is that if the woman I swore to love from her to eternity doesn't find me attractive or "want me"...HTH is another female going to be able.
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Originally Posted by Loving Husband
I know where you have been.. I was everything in my relationship and my wife told me I treated her like the scum on the bottom of my shoe I couldn't get rid of. Yet facts are I was cause I felt like you. I yearned for love and couldn't get it. My wife became depressed and TOOK everything I had. What changed was her leaving me and thinking it was my fault. I worked on the little stuff I did wrong and then my wife finally saw the issues she had and realized how great they damaged the marriage.. All I can tell you is woek on treating her better and talk to her about what you want out of your marriage.
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I'm going to admit that I am a bit shocked by your last sentence. But...we don't know each other. I am not sure what I can do to treat her better. Another story...I used to love buying her flowers. It made me feel good to have them delivered to her work. Sometimes it was simply because she crossed my mind. All I got when she got home was "thanks". Talk about a kick in the gnads.
I know that what I need to do is simply talk to her and let her know what I am feeling and working it out. Part of me is afraid that she won't care...and the other part is afraid to look her in the eyes and hurt her when I tell her what I am going through.