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aberrant · 11-09-2009, 01:59 PM

If I can get her to change shifts (which means seeing him much less) and help her with her depression I think we have a chance.

Looking over a list of symptoms of depression, they are exactly what I saw in my wife leading up to her infidelity, and they are exactly how she is acting now. She feels hopeless about our relationship and doesn't want to try to make it work because she sees no hope and doesn't want to hurt me anymore. Very classic depression stuff. She blames herself, she resents me, she doubts her self-worth.

I sit there and wonder who this woman is, as she is very different from the woman I married. From her perspective, she just knows our relationship is over and that it is hopeless.

It is hard- I vowed to stand along side her "in sickness and in health" but a sickness that makes her break her vows to me wasn't what I expected!

11-09-2009, 01:59 PM	#6 (permalink)
aberrant Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 11	Re: Question for those who survived an affair If I can get her to change shifts (which means seeing him much less) and help her with her depression I think we have a chance. Looking over a list of symptoms of depression, they are exactly what I saw in my wife leading up to her infidelity, and they are exactly how she is acting now. She feels hopeless about our relationship and doesn't want to try to make it work because she sees no hope and doesn't want to hurt me anymore. Very classic depression stuff. She blames herself, she resents me, she doubts her self-worth. I sit there and wonder who this woman is, as she is very different from the woman I married. From her perspective, she just knows our relationship is over and that it is hopeless. It is hard- I vowed to stand along side her "in sickness and in health" but a sickness that makes her break her vows to me wasn't what I expected!