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Originally Posted by GAsoccerman
I ahve to admit if my wife gained 95Lbs since we were married, I would be very upset.
I have blatantly told my wife she needs to get in shape for health reasons. I think she is a georgous women, but not if she get's lazy and get's fat.
The problem is he waited to long to tell you, it has probably been eating at him for a long time.
Sit down with him, maybe you can discuss about working out together, maybe he can be your coach. He can help you eat better. make it a "team" effort. It is a lifestyle change and you need to change.
You may have a job wear you can wear jeans and sneakers, but you can still dress up somewhat, nice slacks and a nice blouse. My wife can wear some nice clothes to work, and then take them off soon as she gets home, and I say, why did you change? I didn't get a chance to look you over. (we are visual creatures) I feel bummed, Left out, when my wife wears asexy top to work, then changes to a t-shirt when she get's home, I understand the whole "comfort" thing, but hey, have a drink with me, let me drool over you a bit before you go change.
But I coach my wife, I have a routine she works out to and eats better becuase I brought it to her attention. Ask him for help and guidence about getting back into shape.
I don't think he wants a divorce, but he wants you in better shape, So honey losing 30 pounds is a great start!! Now keep going. Get him involved and communicate with him how much you love him and that you will do this for him.
Best of luck!
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Thanks for the insight =)
Like I said I completley understand where he is coming from and I think I know why it took him so long to come out and say it because he told me he didnt want to hurt me and it made him feel superficial. Which I tried to explain to him that I didnt take it that way at all.
About dressing up at work....I work for an Automotive Performance Shop and I have made some changes to look a little better but I cant really dress up with nice slacks or blouses because I move parts around not necessarily greasy stuff but tires etc. I am the office manager but we are a small company and we all pitch in and do a little of everything. Another reason why I wear sneakers is because you dont want your toes exposed in this place you might lose one! Like I said I have made steps to look more presentable by doing my hair and makeup instead of wearing a pony tail and now that I have lost some weight I am tucking my t-shirts in and wearing a belt (which I need a new one cause its too big now) instead of leaving them hanging out and looking sloppy. I am still girly as with getting my nails and toes done religously. And I have to say just the changes I have made are making me feel alot better about myself which is awesome!