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lastinline · 11-10-2009, 08:16 AM

I'm not sure you can trust him either Scared. I believe in "going with your instincts" or "heart" if you would when it comes to these matters. Infidelity takes many forms, and certainly "video phone sex" sounds like one of it's more vulgar shapes.

I feel for you with a new baby and all, but one "truth" that I have recently discovered is that just "having something" isn't enough to make a marriage go. Stay with me here a moment, it's sort of like having a car up on blocks in your driveway that doesn't run. Do you really have a car? I guess that all depends on how much work needs to be done to the vehicle, what your mechanical skills are, and whether the cost to repair it is greater than the overall value of the car to you.

The "car" is an allegory, but only you can answer the above questions, and when you do scared, you will have your answer. God bless. LIL

P.S. don't lead on your having an affair if you are not, it's cruel. If you are then your whole post is a sham, but have the decency (wrong word) to tell him that Scared and move on. There is no need to have 2 broken down cars in your driveway.

11-10-2009, 08:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
lastinline Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: In a house, or in a clinic. Posts: 465	Re: Not sure if I can trust my husband again... I'm not sure you can trust him either Scared. I believe in "going with your instincts" or "heart" if you would when it comes to these matters. Infidelity takes many forms, and certainly "video phone sex" sounds like one of it's more vulgar shapes. I feel for you with a new baby and all, but one "truth" that I have recently discovered is that just "having something" isn't enough to make a marriage go. Stay with me here a moment, it's sort of like having a car up on blocks in your driveway that doesn't run. Do you really have a car? I guess that all depends on how much work needs to be done to the vehicle, what your mechanical skills are, and whether the cost to repair it is greater than the overall value of the car to you. The "car" is an allegory, but only you can answer the above questions, and when you do scared, you will have your answer. God bless. LIL P.S. don't lead on your having an affair if you are not, it's cruel. If you are then your whole post is a sham, but have the decency (wrong word) to tell him that Scared and move on. There is no need to have 2 broken down cars in your driveway.