Stop doing all the extras. Continue to be friendly and kind. But stop working so hard, stop with the flowers, the dinners etc. And when she asks you what is wrong - just say "I don't feel loved." And then say as little as possible until she starts making more effort.
Right now she just sees you as half roommate and half cook/housekeeper. Only one way to change that - stop acting like it.
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Originally Posted by LostnSD
I tried last night. She finally asked if something was wrong...so I told her. I told her that I needed a wife, a partner, a lover, and a best friend in this marriage, instead of a 3rd daughter at times. I told her about feeling taken for granted, not appreciated, used and about feeling completely alone in this marriage. I told her about the ache and hurt that I have inside.
All I got in return was an "I'm sorry". I didn't know what to expect as her reply...but that wasn't it.
Just kinda numb right now...
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