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Originally Posted by MEM11363
Stop doing all the extras. Continue to be friendly and kind. But stop working so hard, stop with the flowers, the dinners etc. And when she asks you what is wrong - just say "I don't feel loved." And then say as little as possible until she starts making more effort.
Right now she just sees you as half roommate and half cook/housekeeper. Only one way to change that - stop acting like it.
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I stopped with the flowers awhile ago. As for the dinners...if I don't, then my daughters end up eating frozen pizzas for supper or grilled cheese sandwiches.
I really do appreciate all the advice given...I really do. I also wish it was as easy as "just stop doing it". Its odd...but in this marriage I am the talker, the feeler, the hugger, the one who tucks in at night and makes sure that family is taken care of first. Sometimes I wish I were the type of guy that had the attitude that if the wife were leaving me alone...my life is just that much better.