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dobo · 11-11-2009, 12:51 PM

Could she be going through perimenopause? Maybe her hormones are going nuts.

Also, don't discount an affair. Who stays out all night at a friends when just going to the movies???

Being out of work is stressful. But she's acting like something else is up. Why all of the sudden are you not making enough money? Does she not want to go to work again and wants you to supply all of her needs? Or is she deciding if she wants to hang on to you when there is someone else out there offering something else?

If you can get into therapy with her, I would suggest doing it NOW. Something is going on with her and you are very right to be concerned.

My gut is that there is someone else even if she hasn't actually done anything yet. It is the simplest answer and all too often, explains a spouse's strange behavior in a large number (majority?) of cases.

You're going to have to look around for clues about someone else. Do it now and don't tell yourself there is no way. There is every way.

11-11-2009, 12:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
dobo Banned Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,423	Re: Heartbroken x2 Could she be going through perimenopause? Maybe her hormones are going nuts. Also, don't discount an affair. Who stays out all night at a friends when just going to the movies??? Being out of work is stressful. But she's acting like something else is up. Why all of the sudden are you not making enough money? Does she not want to go to work again and wants you to supply all of her needs? Or is she deciding if she wants to hang on to you when there is someone else out there offering something else? If you can get into therapy with her, I would suggest doing it NOW. Something is going on with her and you are very right to be concerned. My gut is that there is someone else even if she hasn't actually done anything yet. It is the simplest answer and all too often, explains a spouse's strange behavior in a large number (majority?) of cases. You're going to have to look around for clues about someone else. Do it now and don't tell yourself there is no way. There is every way.