827Aug

It's good that you are questioning this problem BEFORE you get married. Have you been married before? As wives, many of us have had this problem to some degree. However the "degree" you're describing is going to be difficult.

My husband and I are separated and going to counseling after 21 years of marriage. We've got a lot of issues to deal with, but it's now becoming apparent that the relationship with his mother is involved. Will you be living near his mother after you are married? Although my mother-in-law lives a couple of hours away, she still manages to control some of my husbands decisions. Yep, there have been arguments about that too! I would hate to imagine how difficult it would have been ,if we lived in the same city.

Since he is 40 and has this stronger than usual bond with his mother, you really need to know more about his childhood. From experience, it's a horrible feeling to have your husband always siding with his mother against you. I'm starting to understand more about this thru counseling--at least for us, this goes back to my husband's childhood.

Good luck!