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djguy13 · 11-12-2009, 08:32 AM

My wife is driving effin crazy about this now.
She's a full time nanny for 2 kids, so basically her job is to run somebody elses home. From food shopping, laundry, drive kids to school, etc etc So of course when she gets home at 7 pm she's tired. Is that my fault?
Now she started cooking in the morning while the kids she watches are in school.
Basically my day goes like this. I drop my daughter to school, pick her up at 4:30. Go home, fix our bed, laundry sometimes, spend time with my 4 year old. And now a days I'm doing the salad or rice to go with whatever she brings already cooked from her job.
For the record, I have a stressfull job but I don't let it interfere with my life as a husband or dad.
Anyways, we finish eating and now she's getting mad because I don't help her clean the kitchen. C'monn!!!!!!!! I wanna seat down, watch tv or relax for a couple of hours before going to bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm really about to leave her behind (again). This girl doesn't know how good she has it with me. I do a lot IMO (In my opinion).
Just for the record, when my baby girl frst was born, I was the one waking up in the middle of the nite to walk her around the apartment for 1-2 hours while she slept. OMFG, that's why sometimes I think it's my daughter who keeps me from leaving my wife.
Don't get me wrong, she's a good person but i she needs to pick up a fight at least once a week or she wouldn't survive.
Last weekend was very nice, it was my daughter's bday and we had family over. had a very good time.
Now 3 days later she gets mad and puts up a fight about me spending time with my dad too much (he lives 10 minutes from us and we're very close). Also she was mad because of the dishes again.

and before i forget, The first time I left the house was because we both stopped talking to each other for a month I think. basically we got fed up with each other.

SHE DRIVES ME NUTTTSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DOESN'T APPRECIATE NOTHING AND ALWAYS TRIES TO PUT ME DOWN. NOTHING I DO IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER(fix beds, cook something, give my daughter a bath, bring good income to the house, never fight, I'm a very calm guy, super easy going)

She comes from divorced parents, her father has like 12 kids, 8 of them are not even signed by him. South american family. Her mother divorced him and came to this country 12 years ago. Her mother has so much hate towards her ex-husband and my wife grew up seeing all this. I guess somehow these events marked my wife for life.
In her eyes all men are the same.
I don't know what to do anymore. My daughter just turned 4

11-12-2009, 08:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
djguy13 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 12	question about household chores My wife is driving effin crazy about this now. She's a full time nanny for 2 kids, so basically her job is to run somebody elses home. From food shopping, laundry, drive kids to school, etc etc So of course when she gets home at 7 pm she's tired. Is that my fault? Now she started cooking in the morning while the kids she watches are in school. Basically my day goes like this. I drop my daughter to school, pick her up at 4:30. Go home, fix our bed, laundry sometimes, spend time with my 4 year old. And now a days I'm doing the salad or rice to go with whatever she brings already cooked from her job. For the record, I have a stressfull job but I don't let it interfere with my life as a husband or dad. Anyways, we finish eating and now she's getting mad because I don't help her clean the kitchen. C'monn!!!!!!!! I wanna seat down, watch tv or relax for a couple of hours before going to bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm really about to leave her behind (again). This girl doesn't know how good she has it with me. I do a lot IMO (In my opinion). Just for the record, when my baby girl frst was born, I was the one waking up in the middle of the nite to walk her around the apartment for 1-2 hours while she slept. OMFG, that's why sometimes I think it's my daughter who keeps me from leaving my wife. Don't get me wrong, she's a good person but i she needs to pick up a fight at least once a week or she wouldn't survive. Last weekend was very nice, it was my daughter's bday and we had family over. had a very good time. Now 3 days later she gets mad and puts up a fight about me spending time with my dad too much (he lives 10 minutes from us and we're very close). Also she was mad because of the dishes again. and before i forget, The first time I left the house was because we both stopped talking to each other for a month I think. basically we got fed up with each other. SHE DRIVES ME NUTTTSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DOESN'T APPRECIATE NOTHING AND ALWAYS TRIES TO PUT ME DOWN. NOTHING I DO IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER(fix beds, cook something, give my daughter a bath, bring good income to the house, never fight, I'm a very calm guy, super easy going) She comes from divorced parents, her father has like 12 kids, 8 of them are not even signed by him. South american family. Her mother divorced him and came to this country 12 years ago. Her mother has so much hate towards her ex-husband and my wife grew up seeing all this. I guess somehow these events marked my wife for life. In her eyes all men are the same. I don't know what to do anymore. My daughter just turned 4 Last edited by djguy13; 11-12-2009 at 12:25 PM.