Positive about the reading and no online activity while I'm at home. I've been monitoring her internet activity (iPhone and computer) throughout the day and it's pretty consistent with what she says she's doing. However, I cannot monitor text messaging through her iPhone, I can only see numbers in/out via AT&T.
My spanking privileges have been officially placed on hold. Although she looks like she's suffering from withdrawals. Its all a matter of time till she caves in - with the drama she's been giving me I might go into a spanking frenzy and damage her.
Yes, the mother is a sensitive subject. She's an absolute nut case and I would never talk to her (read 1st post; family meddling) after what she's put our entire family through. The mom is the type of person who has never worked a day in her life and sucks the life force and money out of each man/victim she marries. The last one passed away and she's on the hunt (almost overnight) for the next victim. No go there... Makes one think that maybe I'm dealing with a genetic trait, one that waited 35 years to occur...
IF I'm able to get a handle on the situation and she begins to speak to me as if I was her husband and not her enemy I'll definitely mention Perimenopause - planting the seed as you indicated.
Severance just ended and she's awaiting unemployment, we have plenty of money in savings to tide us over for a long time. She has her own money and her own credit cards (nothing jointly except savings). I got home last night and she seems to have dropped the whole paying her back.
I'm not worried about consulting an attorney, my sister is an aggressive attorney and my wife knows it. She handled my wife's divorce whereby she got everything she wanted and more - seems the ex was intentionally hiding and avoiding the idea of divorce as well as the responsibilities of assisting in paying support. Sis took care of all that very quickly.
I spoke with my sister last night who has a good relationship with my wife, she thinks that the whole stress of not having a job and the fact that I'm working a lot and not giving her enough personal attention is lending to these issues along with the stress of debates (albeit maybe once a month) in regards to raising our son (rules and all that). Sis will be up here in a week and will talk to my wife face to face about what's going on - hell by then the situation may change from defcon 1 to defcon 5.
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Originally Posted by dobo
I'm going to still go with an affair. The hyper interest in different things sex-wise and the avoidance of church (guilt) may indicate someone else... and are you sure she's only reading at night? Is she with you when she is doing it? Nothing going on online?
Are you tying her up and spanking her? I'd suggest giving it a try if you aren't.
I suppose you could talk to her mother and find out when she went through menopause and peri-. Daughters are usually within a year or two of their mothers.
Also, you could mention it to her and ask her if she has any thoughts about the changes and if they could be related to perimenopause. Plant the seed. Then later ask her if she's going to see a doctor about it.
Anyway -- GFs are the best cover for affairs. Sometimes they're the person who sparked the idea and are cheating themselves.
Does your wife get any sort of severance now? Does she get her own spending money? I don't know about this paying her back business... Ask her why she feels you should pay her back. Talk to the woman. If she grumps, she grumps.
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