| | Re: Need Experienced Advice Regarding Affair
Either get permission from your wife, or file divorce before you do it. You disrespect your wife greatly just by seriously entertaining the idea. Do you have children? If so how do you think it will effect them when your wife finds out? How about your families, friends, coworkers?
You and the other lady are both in a needy situation. While you may not be looking for an emotional connection - just sex. Who can say what she is looking for? Women who don't have some level of emotional connection with someone they are having sex with are rare. You think it will be uncomplicated and without strings - until the other woman decides to complicate it by calling your wife out of jealousy or something else. You think it will be a one time thing - but what about in six months when your bored again. It will keep repeating itself because you have an unresolved issue at home. Its like the drug addict - I just want to experiment once and see what its like - then they are hooked.
You say that "no one is 'perfect' for each other - that is a fairy tale." Well I hate to tell you, but the idea of having your cake (your loving wife waiting at home) and eating it too (the girlfriend waiting to sooth your sexual urges across town) is a fairy tale as well. either step it up and address her emotional connection issues which will in turn lead to your sexual issues improving or cut her loose to find a man that will love and respect her as she needs.
Last edited by TNgirl232; 11-12-2009 at 02:56 PM.
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