gearhead65

confused,

I understand the need to understand to know what happened and to face the reality, but there is something hidden just behind that which is what you need to see. Your hoping it is something you can work on, or that there is a misunderstanding to correct and make right. What if there isn't? What if he woke up one morning and decided he hated the shape of your head and that no matter what you do you'll never be able to change that. In all honesty their reasons don't matter and wont fix anything. All that matters is you being ok where you are.

I would recommend figuring out the dog thing so that you can have no contact with him at all. It might be best to put him up for adoption so that neither of you is resentful to the other for keeping him/her.

This isn't your fault. He said that he wanted kids and that he wanted them with you. Miscarriages happen for all kinds of reasons. It isn't your fault that the puppy was hard to deal with.

It could be that the shock of the miscarriage and the puppy and the disappointment made him fall out of infatuation with you and he didn't do the work to build a long term love and commitment. More likely he had a problem and couldn't express it and made decisions about all of that to himself which caused him to not be "in love with you". Fundamentally, all of that is his choice and how he deals with relationships.

It speaks volumes that you want to continue to try, but take it from someone who just went through a false reconciliation. You know when they want to be with you and when they don't. If he really wants you he'll come running and pestering you all the time. Until that happens there is nothing for you to do, but focus on you. When you walk into the house and you are alone think about how nice it is to not have a man around to deal with. When you see other happy couples remember the times the two of you put on a happy facade for others when things weren't going well.

GearHead