| | Only I can make myself come
Reading The Erotic Mind (recommended by Ian Kerner on cnn.com's Health page), I realized that the reason he can't bring me to orgasm and I have to do it myself is because he doesn't arouse me enough because he doesn't do what is arousing to me. So without going into details on my arousals, I can say I can get off on someone doing oral on me, if I belive they like it. If I believe they like it. I repeated that.
So my husband will do oral, but as a favor. He has a 20 min time limit and he requests a 69 position every time. I guess it is not so bad that way. I can never come that way and in the 20 min.
So I'm trying to decide if I should just be okay with having to do it myself every time, or how I can let myself pretend he likes doing it, so I can get aroused enough to orgasm from his touch.
Other than that, he does turn me on and I love sex with him. It's just that I can't come from anything he does TO me. I have to do it myself, and I always fantasize about someone who is turned on by me, so it's never him. I sort of wish I could change that.