Stick it out for the kids?
uggggh.....
Together married 7 years, 2 kids, we both work. There's no cheating or beating. Family time is great. But I don't feel love or attraction anymore. We have tried couples counseling, individual counseling, date nights, read every book in the world about being married- Nothing works.
Our dynamic has changed in that I used to be his doormat and now I am not. Things improved for a few weeks, but then went right back to normal, which is, a complacent, boring, loveless marriage.
I get zero from him emotionally, and he will not change. My mind and heart left, and then my body. We have sex, but I do not enjoy it- and he is starting to notice.
So.... Do we stick it out for the kids? I would feel so... stupid to divorce for 'love'. It seems trivial and silly to destroy our house for 'love', and yet I can't shake the feelings of wanting & needing more from him.
Advice?
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