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Commited1 · 11-13-2009, 02:43 AM

Not to make this even longer but there is some more information- at night when we sleep, before she goes to sleep and when she first wakes up she stays away from me, won't make any contact at all. But when she is asleep or even half asleep she is wrapped around me, her head planted firmly in or on my chest, her arms around me. I cherish these little moments like gold. I don't know if she knows its even me next to her (she is sleeping after all), but it is nice and gives me a little bit of hope.

Also- our sex life up until this point has been fine. We have had problems in the past though- she has felt she wasn't getting it enough, and I felt the quality wasn't there. She wanted sex pretty much every single day, always with her just laying there not doing anything, in the dark with hours of kissing and rubbing, not actual foreplay, literally just kissing and rubbing arms and legs etc. I wanted more foreplay and something other than her on her back in the dark. If I would have had what I wanted, we probably would have done it every day. As it has been though, we only did two or three times a week. Not at all in the past two weeks though (of course).

Also, I look better and am in better physical condition than any time in my life. My job demands high physical performance and I have packed on 50 pounds of muscle (no exaggeration) in the past few years. I do not have a perfectly flat stomach but I get compliments on everything else (chest, arms, shoulders, butt, legs, package, face etc). I get more female attention than ever before, which I politely decline, even when she is nowhere around.

I keep editing as I work this out in my mind and heart. I look better than ever. She had 4 kids and looks fantastic to me, but is really really sensitive about how she looks now (she just turned 29). Just recently she started wearing makeup and stuff (she never wore makeup before, she is really naturally beautiful with a great complexion etc). Is it somehow possible that she feels bad about how she looks, is jealous of the attention I get, and that's why she wanted sex every single day (with the lights off)?

Allot to think about. Any advice or thoughts what so ever, please speak up!

11-13-2009, 02:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
Commited1 Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 98	Re: My god, help..... Not to make this even longer but there is some more information- at night when we sleep, before she goes to sleep and when she first wakes up she stays away from me, won't make any contact at all. But when she is asleep or even half asleep she is wrapped around me, her head planted firmly in or on my chest, her arms around me. I cherish these little moments like gold. I don't know if she knows its even me next to her (she is sleeping after all), but it is nice and gives me a little bit of hope. Also- our sex life up until this point has been fine. We have had problems in the past though- she has felt she wasn't getting it enough, and I felt the quality wasn't there. She wanted sex pretty much every single day, always with her just laying there not doing anything, in the dark with hours of kissing and rubbing, not actual foreplay, literally just kissing and rubbing arms and legs etc. I wanted more foreplay and something other than her on her back in the dark. If I would have had what I wanted, we probably would have done it every day. As it has been though, we only did two or three times a week. Not at all in the past two weeks though (of course). Also, I look better and am in better physical condition than any time in my life. My job demands high physical performance and I have packed on 50 pounds of muscle (no exaggeration) in the past few years. I do not have a perfectly flat stomach but I get compliments on everything else (chest, arms, shoulders, butt, legs, package, face etc). I get more female attention than ever before, which I politely decline, even when she is nowhere around. I keep editing as I work this out in my mind and heart. I look better than ever. She had 4 kids and looks fantastic to me, but is really really sensitive about how she looks now (she just turned 29). Just recently she started wearing makeup and stuff (she never wore makeup before, she is really naturally beautiful with a great complexion etc). Is it somehow possible that she feels bad about how she looks, is jealous of the attention I get, and that's why she wanted sex every single day (with the lights off)? Allot to think about. Any advice or thoughts what so ever, please speak up! Last edited by Commited1; 11-13-2009 at 02:51 AM.