| | Re: In Need of Advice---At My Wit's End!
OK, you need to put your foot down. Hard. He cheated. He CHEATED on you. What did you do to deserve that? the answer is - NOTHING. It is ALL on him. He is a liar and a cheat, and from what you write he has every intention of just keeping it up despite what you think or say or do.
You need to get tested for STD's.
So, if I were you, I would tell him he has five minutes to pack a bag and to get the hell out. Where he goes you do not care. Just OUT. Away from you. You will NOT put up with this behaviour. It is UNACCEPTABLE.
Then, If after a week or a month you feel like you want to talk to him again, he will have to PROVE to you that he is done cheating. That will include but is not limited to giving you all his passwords for email, facebook, bank accounts, cell phones etc, letting you see everything you want to on any of his accounts anywhere at any time, showing you his phone immediately whenever you tell him to. He must get tested for STD's and show you the results in writing, or better yet take you to the results appt. He must tell you EVERYTHING and leave nothing out, and he must prove what he says, via polygraph if that's what you want.
Please don't let him call the shots here. Take the bull by the horns. Kicking him out doesn't mean it's over - read my story if you don't believe me. Kicking my husband out was exactly what he needed.