Thewife

Wondering how are u! some of the things u have mentioned like your MIL acting like your son's mother sounds like my MIL. I had similar but not as serious problems with my MIL the rest of the in laws were ok. DH will sympathise with me and assure me that he understands what i m going through but did nothing to solve my problems. MIL started invading my privacy too much and I almost went into ppd. Luckily, i found myself again and stood upto her a few months ago. I didnt wait for DH to side me or protect me cos I felt that I m the one affected so I should take action. I told mil she cant just pop into my house as and when she wants, she must call me at least a day in advance and I will only be available on Sundays and wed etc. She was very upset at first that i dont let her see her grand children but eventually she understood that the bottom line is I dont want her in my house telling me what to do. I am not sure if she had complained to DH, nor do I care.

I am guessing that your culture has a major role in what u r going thru? pardon me if I m wrong. Well whatever the reason be, its very right of you to want to have some space and respect. This is 21st century and no one has a right to control anyone in the way u have described. Hope U have found a solution. Do update us if possible!