Thanks for your story! My husband is drinking too much--I feel he is or will soon be an alcoholic. I haven't posted my story on here yet, but have read a lot and it all helps. I won't tell it now either, it will take too long, but here's a bit....His drinking has gradually built over many years, but what has sent it over the top is he got laid off 5 years ago from a position he held for 30 years that had excellent pay. I was able to stay home for 16 years and raise our kids. He has had trouble finding work since. Lots of temp. jobs. A few school bus subbing jobs until the schools had budget cuts. When he does work, he's making not even a quarter of what he used to. It's sad. I initiate all the time lately, but many times, he's just like okay if you want to--but there's no enthusiasm like there used to be. Today he was like well okay we can go try (how sad is that). He says he wants me but doesn't know what is wrong with him and like you he now has trouble finishing, then of course he gets mad at himself....
His latest temp job ended 4 weeks ago. He has looked for work at most 2 of the days since and then only for maybe an hour each day. We can't make it on my salary. I am working 2 jobs. I work at home and can do any extra work there is, but there isn't always extra.....
He only drinks beer, he says it makes him happy, says he is not depressed when he is drinking. I think in the long run it makes him more depressed. As far as I can tell, he is now drinking on average a 12-pack every single day! I ask him about it once in a while but he gets defensive. I have never let on that I know how much he is now drinking, only that I think he may be drinking too much.
Our lives have changed so much. His job loss was nothing compared to what we are losing with his drinking! And no, no one else knows about his drinking. He spreads it out over the course of a day, so never is drunk (well I bet a breathalyzer may say different), but he doesn't slur his words, stumble, pass out or anything.
Just reading your story explained some of what is going on and how he feels, etc. So again I wanted to say thanks!
Your story opened my eyes some more
