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Chopblock · 06-23-2008, 10:51 AM

[[If you want to show her improvement, just saying, "I'm sorry, I'll try not to do it again," and leaving it at that will probably go a long way.]]

Problem is, I've BEEN saying that, and without enough perceived improvement, to her, those are just empty words, even though I really do try.

[[you're not too quick to take hints sometimes]]

I'm not sure what you are referring to here -- are you saying that she wouldn't have to outright remind me to do something if I was picking up on her hints? That may be fair (we'll pretend that the hint is understandable, and not completely obscure).

I'm also curious to hear if anyone out there ever had success by just going on strike to make someone realize just how good they have it? I mean while I do forget things I'm asked occasionally, I still feel that I do WAYYYYY too much for her to ever complain.

While I do realize that getting it right as much as possible will help, I need some more obvious gestures (besides "oh just talk to her") that make her see the improvement. This may not even be about me doing better, more about getting her to appreciate just how bloody good she has it!

I'm getting fed up with hearing women say things like "if he just helped with the housework, i'd be so happy". I then realized that the reason they say this is because they are used to worse. If I get my gf used to worse, maybe she'll appreciate just how good things are.

06-23-2008, 10:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
Chopblock Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 233	Re: he's so forgetful! [[If you want to show her improvement, just saying, "I'm sorry, I'll try not to do it again," and leaving it at that will probably go a long way.]] Problem is, I've BEEN saying that, and without enough perceived improvement, to her, those are just empty words, even though I really do try. [[you're not too quick to take hints sometimes]] I'm not sure what you are referring to here -- are you saying that she wouldn't have to outright remind me to do something if I was picking up on her hints? That may be fair (we'll pretend that the hint is understandable, and not completely obscure). I'm also curious to hear if anyone out there ever had success by just going on strike to make someone realize just how good they have it? I mean while I do forget things I'm asked occasionally, I still feel that I do WAYYYYY too much for her to ever complain. While I do realize that getting it right as much as possible will help, I need some more obvious gestures (besides "oh just talk to her") that make her see the improvement. This may not even be about me doing better, more about getting her to appreciate just how bloody good she has it! I'm getting fed up with hearing women say things like "if he just helped with the housework, i'd be so happy". I then realized that the reason they say this is because they are used to worse. If I get my gf used to worse, maybe she'll appreciate just how good things are.