mommy22

I am going to SERIOUSLY bite my tongue here as a victim of attempted rape. It took years for me to get my head cleared. Thank God I've gotten through a lot of the issues. Here's a scenario ( although it still doesn't compare):
Let's imagine you're out running errands, as you go to deposit a check at the bank, you're jumped by gang members and nearly beaten to death. You've dealt with this bank for years. You like the service you get, the tellers are nice, interest rates on loans are reasonable, the bank itself is wonderful. Let's face it, no other bank compares. However, every time you drive by that bank, the reminder is still there. You go to the ATM, you go through the drive through window, you just can't bring yourself to go inside. You know one day you'll be able to. Even though the people in that bank had nothing to do with what happened to you, scenes from the near fatality flash through your mind. You still have nightmares. It was a freak thing. Nothing like that has happened in your town before or since.
This is the way it is for women who've been raped. They love their husbands. They know it's not his fault. They want more than anything to be intimate with him in a way that defies everything else. Yet sometimes, when they're in the moment, flashbacks happen. Husbands and wives who really love each other may be able to work through it. If they can't work through it, at that point they may choose to move on.
Now, it's one thing to post your opinions in an honest fashion. It is quite another to muse about something so horrible. You have absolutely no idea what it's like to go through something like that. It's certainly not an "excuse". There are people who experience sexual abuse as children who are never able to have a normal relationship. Please show some respect for people who've been in tragic situations. You never know when you may need the compassion from others. You may find no one is there when you need a shoulder to lean on.