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GAsoccerman · 06-24-2008, 01:41 AM

well Bhappy that is tough and I ahve found out that there are allot of couples out there that one would be interested, the other is not.

Like I would do a thresome with my wife and a male friend if she was interested, but she has made it clear she is not, so I am not going to pressure into it or even bring it up anymore.

Right now I think you are in the "lust stage" knowing about this guys adventure, of course he could be lying to you, just to maybe bed you at some point.

The issue is your hubby, he has to be comfortable with it, he has to be on board a 110% because it will eat away at him, if he does this just for you and is not into it. It will end up destroying your marriage if he is not fully into it.

Now I see you live in PA, not sure what area. If you live near Philly, I believe there are some "swinger clubs" in that area.

I suggest that you and your hubby attend one of these swinger clubs, But make the pact with him, that you will do nothing without his consent, or vice versa,, set some ground rules.

My wife were curious and we went to one to "check it out" while we did not become swingers, we enjoyed being in front of others and watching others, It really turned my wife on.

So while we did not swap or do a threesome, we had wild sex with ourselves, she does not mind dressing up sexy and going with me to the club.

Maybe this would be a good starting point for you both. Go set the rules of " just to "check it out" a 1 time thing. Just have fun with each other and take int he sights and stuff.

After then decide what your options are. Basically for us it's my wife's call, if she wants to swap with another couple or try a threesome all she has to say it. Until that day I will respect her decision and not pressure her in anyway for or fashion.

Talk it over with him, see what he says. If you do go I would go on a "couples night" or a club that has "couples only & single women" ones that allow single males is bad and it is like vultures.

Best of luck, but if you were to do it I think your hubby would have a hard time accepting it, would you share him with one of your girlfriends?? just curious.

06-24-2008, 01:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
GAsoccerman Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Georgia Posts: 537	Re: You'll need an open mind for this one... well Bhappy that is tough and I ahve found out that there are allot of couples out there that one would be interested, the other is not. Like I would do a thresome with my wife and a male friend if she was interested, but she has made it clear she is not, so I am not going to pressure into it or even bring it up anymore. Right now I think you are in the "lust stage" knowing about this guys adventure, of course he could be lying to you, just to maybe bed you at some point. The issue is your hubby, he has to be comfortable with it, he has to be on board a 110% because it will eat away at him, if he does this just for you and is not into it. It will end up destroying your marriage if he is not fully into it. Now I see you live in PA, not sure what area. If you live near Philly, I believe there are some "swinger clubs" in that area. I suggest that you and your hubby attend one of these swinger clubs, But make the pact with him, that you will do nothing without his consent, or vice versa,, set some ground rules. My wife were curious and we went to one to "check it out" while we did not become swingers, we enjoyed being in front of others and watching others, It really turned my wife on. So while we did not swap or do a threesome, we had wild sex with ourselves, she does not mind dressing up sexy and going with me to the club. Maybe this would be a good starting point for you both. Go set the rules of " just to "check it out" a 1 time thing. Just have fun with each other and take int he sights and stuff. After then decide what your options are. Basically for us it's my wife's call, if she wants to swap with another couple or try a threesome all she has to say it. Until that day I will respect her decision and not pressure her in anyway for or fashion. Talk it over with him, see what he says. If you do go I would go on a "couples night" or a club that has "couples only & single women" ones that allow single males is bad and it is like vultures. Best of luck, but if you were to do it I think your hubby would have a hard time accepting it, would you share him with one of your girlfriends?? just curious.