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Millania007 · 11-17-2009, 07:36 AM

I am so sorry you are feeling this! This can be horrible but fixable with the proper communication. I know you have probably tried talking to him but there definitley needs to be a huge talk between you 2. You need to express to him how you feel, that you do not want to argue but that you need to find out what is going on? Did you guys have a normal sex life before children? Did he initiate in the past? I think it should be 50%/50%, but the man should definitley step up to the plate and initiate things once in a while, at least once a week or so!
I would definitley nix the talks with the X right away, and DONT tell your husband about this! This will ONLY make him resent you and not trust you and you 2 will get into a horrible argument because of the X.
You DO need to tell him that you have needs and that you truly love him and would LOVE to have normal sex with your husband! Ask him what the problem is? I am sorry but if he is not initiating and a week or 2 goes by, SOMETHING is bothering your husband OR he is masterbating. A normal human man needs a sexual release every 72 hours. After 72 hours of no release a man starts to go into a little of a frenzy, any look at any short skirt, or any cleavage flash on TV can make a man think of sex, and run for his wife, girlfriend, or masterbation, he should WANT to release? Maybe he has a sexual dysfunction? Has he tried going to the doctor?
Sorry I am all over the place. But this just doesnt sound right, something has to be psychologically wrong with him not to want you! You are 23, in the best shape of your life and you just want love/sex from your husband, there is NOTHING wrong with that! You deserve it! Let me know if you get to talk to your husband, and what he says? In the meantime so you dont go crazy have you tried to pleasure urself to help you cope? I hope so! I think I would go looney tunes if I didnt get any for 2 weeks, Please let me know how it plays out, its not fair to you that he is almost igoring you. You deserve better, or for him to change his ways

11-17-2009, 07:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
Millania007 Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: FL Posts: 158	Re: So lost.... I am so sorry you are feeling this! This can be horrible but fixable with the proper communication. I know you have probably tried talking to him but there definitley needs to be a huge talk between you 2. You need to express to him how you feel, that you do not want to argue but that you need to find out what is going on? Did you guys have a normal sex life before children? Did he initiate in the past? I think it should be 50%/50%, but the man should definitley step up to the plate and initiate things once in a while, at least once a week or so! I would definitley nix the talks with the X right away, and DONT tell your husband about this! This will ONLY make him resent you and not trust you and you 2 will get into a horrible argument because of the X. You DO need to tell him that you have needs and that you truly love him and would LOVE to have normal sex with your husband! Ask him what the problem is? I am sorry but if he is not initiating and a week or 2 goes by, SOMETHING is bothering your husband OR he is masterbating. A normal human man needs a sexual release every 72 hours. After 72 hours of no release a man starts to go into a little of a frenzy, any look at any short skirt, or any cleavage flash on TV can make a man think of sex, and run for his wife, girlfriend, or masterbation, he should WANT to release? Maybe he has a sexual dysfunction? Has he tried going to the doctor? Sorry I am all over the place. But this just doesnt sound right, something has to be psychologically wrong with him not to want you! You are 23, in the best shape of your life and you just want love/sex from your husband, there is NOTHING wrong with that! You deserve it! Let me know if you get to talk to your husband, and what he says? In the meantime so you dont go crazy have you tried to pleasure urself to help you cope? I hope so! I think I would go looney tunes if I didnt get any for 2 weeks, Please let me know how it plays out, its not fair to you that he is almost igoring you. You deserve better, or for him to change his ways