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lost&confused · 06-24-2008, 02:40 PM

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. During the past 5 years, he has shown his temper maybe 2 or 3 times. Nothing necessarily violent… he just gets really mad… really fast. He has never touched me any of those times. We eventually get past it and things are back to normal. Other than a few instances here and there, we don’t argue much at all.

This past weekend he blew up over nothing. To be honest I don’t even recall what happened prior to him getting in his truck and leaving the house. This is what has happened in the past… he literally blows up for no reason at all, or at least no apparent reason at the time. I knew he probably didn’t go far and I was determined to get to the bottom of what was going on. I got in my car (I obviously should have stayed home) and followed him down the driveway. Just as I suspected, he had parked his truck just down the driveway around the curve. I got in his truck and we started to talk. It was obvious that he didn’t want to talk so I told him that I was going back home. I proceeded to get into my car. Before I had a chance to shut the door he was reaching in the car, grabbing my arms, twisting them, trying to get the keys. He said that I wasn’t going anywhere. I was screaming telling him that he was hurting me. He literally dragged me out of the car, still twisting my arms. He then pinned me up against the car with his face not even an inch from mine, saying things like, “Oh, are you scared now, you f***ing b**ch?” “What are ya going to do?” I was scared. I was speechless. The look in his eyes was crazy. He told me that if I thought it was bad now, that I shouldn’t even think about leaving him… that it would only get worse. He wouldn’t let me move. He continued to call me names and saying awful things. He never actually hit me. I almost wish he did, so I would have something concrete to base my feelings on. He has since apologized profusely and he can’t really seem to give me any kind of reason for his outburst. It just happened. He told me that it would never happen again.

I seem to be able to forget about it for a short while, then I replay it all again in my head, like it’s a movie. And then I’m upset again… not able to believe that those things would come out of his mouth. He was like a completely different person.

I have a 10 yr old daughter from a previoous marriage. Thank God she was at her dad’s. I worry if my husband could blowup on hersomeday.

We’ve talked quite a bit about this, but eventually, there’s nothing else to say. He's really good with words. He says all the right things, which makes it easy to forgive and forget. But sometimes his actions don’t quite match what craps out of his mouth.

One minute I want to pack my things and leave. This isn't the way marraige is suppose to be. Am I overreacting?

06-24-2008, 02:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
lost&confused Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 3	Am I Overreacting? My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. During the past 5 years, he has shown his temper maybe 2 or 3 times. Nothing necessarily violent… he just gets really mad… really fast. He has never touched me any of those times. We eventually get past it and things are back to normal. Other than a few instances here and there, we don’t argue much at all. This past weekend he blew up over nothing. To be honest I don’t even recall what happened prior to him getting in his truck and leaving the house. This is what has happened in the past… he literally blows up for no reason at all, or at least no apparent reason at the time. I knew he probably didn’t go far and I was determined to get to the bottom of what was going on. I got in my car (I obviously should have stayed home) and followed him down the driveway. Just as I suspected, he had parked his truck just down the driveway around the curve. I got in his truck and we started to talk. It was obvious that he didn’t want to talk so I told him that I was going back home. I proceeded to get into my car. Before I had a chance to shut the door he was reaching in the car, grabbing my arms, twisting them, trying to get the keys. He said that I wasn’t going anywhere. I was screaming telling him that he was hurting me. He literally dragged me out of the car, still twisting my arms. He then pinned me up against the car with his face not even an inch from mine, saying things like, “Oh, are you scared now, you f*ing bch?” “What are ya going to do?” I was scared. I was speechless. The look in his eyes was crazy. He told me that if I thought it was bad now, that I shouldn’t even think about leaving him… that it would only get worse. He wouldn’t let me move. He continued to call me names and saying awful things. He never actually hit me. I almost wish he did, so I would have something concrete to base my feelings on. He has since apologized profusely and he can’t really seem to give me any kind of reason for his outburst. It just happened. He told me that it would never happen again. I seem to be able to forget about it for a short while, then I replay it all again in my head, like it’s a movie. And then I’m upset again… not able to believe that those things would come out of his mouth. He was like a completely different person. I have a 10 yr old daughter from a previoous marriage. Thank God she was at her dad’s. I worry if my husband could blowup on hersomeday. We’ve talked quite a bit about this, but eventually, there’s nothing else to say. He's really good with words. He says all the right things, which makes it easy to forgive and forget. But sometimes his actions don’t quite match what craps out of his mouth. One minute I want to pack my things and leave. This isn't the way marraige is suppose to be. Am I overreacting?