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BlueCreek · 06-24-2008, 03:13 PM

I think your going to get strong agreement from the people here that the answer to your question, "Am I overreacting?" is a resounding...NO.

Look, did he slap you or punch you? No.

But are you going to just wait around until he does? If he can snap like that and yell those things at your and literally drag you out of your car and pin you to it against your will, are you going to gamble that when he snaps again, it might just be a punch? It could be far worse. It sounds like when he flips out he has very little control. And the man flat out threatened you with worse than just verbal excuse if you take off.

This is not about a disagreement or emotional hurt, this is about violence, pure and simple. I have zero empathy towards the man for what he did and said.

Can you save your marriage, maybe, but I'd try and do so from a distance and I'd be very skeptical about anything he says or promises he makes. Even more serious than that, if you're willing to risk yourself, are you willing to risk your daughter. If he can do that to you (and it sounds to me like he got off on the dominance and power over you he felt) what might he do to your daughter.

Other people may tell you otherwise, but my serious opinion is move out, talk with your ex (since this affects his daughter, you should bring him into the loop) and call a lawyer asap. You need to handle this from a distance.

06-24-2008, 03:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
BlueCreek Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Southern California Posts: 77	Re: Am I Overreacting? I think your going to get strong agreement from the people here that the answer to your question, "Am I overreacting?" is a resounding...NO. Look, did he slap you or punch you? No. But are you going to just wait around until he does? If he can snap like that and yell those things at your and literally drag you out of your car and pin you to it against your will, are you going to gamble that when he snaps again, it might just be a punch? It could be far worse. It sounds like when he flips out he has very little control. And the man flat out threatened you with worse than just verbal excuse if you take off. This is not about a disagreement or emotional hurt, this is about violence, pure and simple. I have zero empathy towards the man for what he did and said. Can you save your marriage, maybe, but I'd try and do so from a distance and I'd be very skeptical about anything he says or promises he makes. Even more serious than that, if you're willing to risk yourself, are you willing to risk your daughter. If he can do that to you (and it sounds to me like he got off on the dominance and power over you he felt) what might he do to your daughter. Other people may tell you otherwise, but my serious opinion is move out, talk with your ex (since this affects his daughter, you should bring him into the loop) and call a lawyer asap. You need to handle this from a distance.