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Originally Posted by dobo
Does this mean you feel forced to stay with the OW?
Have you asked your wife if she would take you back?
IMO, while the OW turned her life upside down for you, she also took what belonged to another woman so if she gets hurt in this, it is sort of karma doing what karma does best. Dating a married man has MASSIVE risk attached to it and that includes the married man returning to his marriage.
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Dobo:
Not necessarily forced but obligated. I am financially tied into this house with the OW and I've already heard through the grapevine that my wife has already started dating and is heavily into the Facebook thing. I do understand that I pushed her into whatever she is doing now, but how do I approach her once again and say I want to come back. Although I know in my heart that I am sincere and that a profound change has taken place within me, I'm afraid that she won't believe me. Trust me...I've repeated this pattern with her before. I tried to reconcile with her in the past but it wasn't successful because my actions were motivated more by guilt & shame and not genuine remorse and repentance. The only thing I can hold on to is that she still has not signed the divorce papers that she has had for almost a year now. She did send me an email 2 months ago asking if I would cover her on my car insurance until the end of the year and she will do the same with carrying me on her medical insurance until years end. I sort of took this as she is going to sign the papers in the new year to start off fresh. I just don't know. Do you really believe I should approach her at this point?