What I do not understand is how i can say it directly, even in marriage counselling, show her books and articles on the subject, and still no grokking of it as serious by her.
We're not talking about pestering her for sex every day whimpering like a hound wanting in the kitchen door. in fact, there are many extended periods of time where i just let it go. I even let it ride for 18 months not too long ago just to see how long she'd go before even mentioning it was occurring.
Not a peep out of her about it. I had to bring it up. That particular drought started when i complained that once every several months was not normal. But I am not going to beg, you let me know when you want to be intimate again.
She NEVER brought it up.
I was so angry. Yeah rejection hurts.
Her reasoning? She was not going to bring it up because i made it an issue, not her.
So she turned it into a pissing match.
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Originally Posted by swedish
I was probably in her position at one point & in all honesty, most of my married friends were having less sex than we were so I did not see it as a problem. It was only after I had done some reading and really understood how this made my husband feel, was I able to make changes in this area. I honestly did not get it before that.
I'm starting to think maybe women should have to meet a room full of men in almost/sexless marriages and listen to how they are feeling at what they are thinking prior to getting married.
and to be fair, men should have to sit on a public toilet with the seat up  |