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Here's another thought...I totally agree that this was an issue for my husband and not for me. And when reading from the man's point of view what is normal as far as how often they want it, etc. gave me some insight, but still was not my issue.

Here's what made it my issue (right or wrong as far as what I read) That men are visual creatures and often look at other women (pictures or in real life) and imagine having sex with them. OK, I know I was naive in this area but this freaked me out and so I asked my husband if this was true and he said yes...which freaked me out even more but I'm glad he was honest.

So I figured the less satisfied he is with the sex within the marriage the more likely he is to look elsewhere...not necessarily act on it but even the looking and temptation is disturbing to me...mainly because I can't say that I've ever looked at a man and wanted to have sex with him...get to know him maybe or think he's attractive but I just don't look at men in a sexual way until I've known them a while and then become attracted & wouldn't think of going there since I'm married. Don't know if that's a woman thing or a me thing.

Anyway, I guess this enlightenment made it my issue in some way as I do have a vested interest in keeping his focus on me (although I'm sure he still looks when I'm not there) Not to say all men are this way or think this way but it did make me think.