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swedish · 06-24-2008, 05:30 PM

It sounds as though she feels very betrayed by your actions. I think you need to figure out what led you to have these inappropriate conversations. Was it for excitement or to vent frustrations about your marriage? (not expecting an answer, but this is what you should ask yourself) She needs to know that you will go to her with issues you are having and work through them as a team, and not look outside the marriage. If she has some reassurance you are open and talking to her about why you betrayed her in this way, it may make her feel less likely that this will happen again.

If you just tell her you messed up and she's the only one, she will have a hard time believing that. She will think obviously she's not and you are only saying that now because you got caught. You need to focus on being patient and understanding of her hurt, in my opinion.

06-24-2008, 05:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
swedish Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Near Chicago Posts: 1,115	Re: I screwed things up It sounds as though she feels very betrayed by your actions. I think you need to figure out what led you to have these inappropriate conversations. Was it for excitement or to vent frustrations about your marriage? (not expecting an answer, but this is what you should ask yourself) She needs to know that you will go to her with issues you are having and work through them as a team, and not look outside the marriage. If she has some reassurance you are open and talking to her about why you betrayed her in this way, it may make her feel less likely that this will happen again. If you just tell her you messed up and she's the only one, she will have a hard time believing that. She will think obviously she's not and you are only saying that now because you got caught. You need to focus on being patient and understanding of her hurt, in my opinion.