BlueCreek

I absolutely have been where you are and can almost guarantee you that compiling stats will just tick her off. One of the important things to understand is that stats mean squat. What is normal for one couple is abnormal for another. Just because the average couple has sex X/month means diddley to the person who simple does not feel that desire or interest, no matter how much they love you.

Generally speaking, the one with the lower labido simply does not see it as their problem. I went around and around with my wife for seven years trying to get her to understand how tightly integrated my intimacy needs were to my emotional ones. As many hints as I dropped, as many ways as I tried to explain the loneliness, rejection, and misery the issue was giving me, she never saw it as anything but a physical need, and that was my issue to deal as the one who was "over sexed". It was only after she finally got it, finally understood how unhappy I was because my emotional needs were not being met, that things turned around for us.

Now I'm happier, and consequently she is happier because I am a better husband and father when I'm not depressed half the time. Also, she discovered that she can feel plenty of desire, she just needs to work up to it and be stimulated before it kicks in. Before she just never wanted intimacy because the desire wasn't there to drive her to want to do anything. So anyway, don't give up, and unless it is obvious she is directly trying to hurt you, try not to take it to personally as rejection.