squirsh2000

Well, to update everyone on the situation, I have initiated cutting her off from the creature comforts of our house. I told her at lunch today that since she is adamantly against being my wife, then she has to stop living like it, and I have to stop allowing it. I told her that she does indeed have the best of both worlds, and its not allowing me to heal. As much as I love her, and feel comfortable with her, I need to do this for myself. I would love nothing more than a true reconciliation, but it takes two. She is going to have to take the kids her 3 days a week to her little apartment, and she basicallly is going to get what she asked for. nothing more, nothing less. I have to admit, i was afraid of this, but I do see the need to begin this process. Everyone was telling me, "let her go, then she will come back." I dont want to play games though, with myself, or her. if I let go, its because I have no more interest in continuing the marriage. I dont want to let go to get her back. i think I would be seting myself up for more heartache. So, do you all think Im on the right path? And, by doing this, am I giving the impression that I am letting go?