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bhappy3 · 06-24-2008, 10:24 PM

Ok, sorry I didn't mean to imply that my husband had cheated... that is something he would never do even if I couldn't ever have sex again due to medical reasons or something off the wall. He would never ever stray, ever. He was with another woman during our time together and it was consentual with all parties. It was INCREDIBLY stimulating and I very much enjoyed watching him with her. We all really enjoyed our times together. That's what I want in return. I want him to enjoy me with someone else.

GASoccerman... what makes you want a threesome with another man rather than another woman?? Some men have that in them and others do not. I have it in me that I thoroughly enjoyed him being with another woman, but he's lacking the same with me being with another man.

I guess what really has me agitated is that he's a selfish man. He has a lot of hobbies and I am always second best to them... ALWAYS. I know I'm not his number one. Hunting and softball come first all the time every time.

Oh yeah, another major key point here is that his libido is LOW. He is by far not your average man. He doesn't care if he gets sex or not. He is not the type to want it every night. When he's busy doing his hobbies, he won't even think about sex. If you read my first post on this whole forum, I might mention that sex is always on his terms... when he wants it. Never ever when I want it. I approach him and he denies me. Twelve years of this and I shut down. I will no longer approach him for sex, no matter how badly I want it b/c I'd rather deal with the frustration of wanting/needing it than the pain of rejection.

So this is how I see it... he has his hobbies and thinks nothing of me. He never asks me for permission to do the things he likes to do. He never asks permission to go play ball or spend countless hours shopping for softball bats. He never asks permission to walk out the door to go hunting or do all things involved with hunting. He never asks permission from me to neglect me sexually. Why would it be so wrong for me to have a man on the side to take care of my sexual needs that my husband doesn't seem to give an inkling of a thought about?

GA... sure I'm in lust. But I've wanted this situation for 15 years now. I suppress it as much as possible, but it still comes up every now and then. And every time I try not to think about it and just shove it back under the rug. It's still there. It still hurts to walk on it. I just feel like I'm missing out on my youth.

Thanks you guys for your open mindedness... I appreciate it.

06-24-2008, 10:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
bhappy3 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 157	Re: You'll need an open mind for this one... Ok, sorry I didn't mean to imply that my husband had cheated... that is something he would never do even if I couldn't ever have sex again due to medical reasons or something off the wall. He would never ever stray, ever. He was with another woman during our time together and it was consentual with all parties. It was INCREDIBLY stimulating and I very much enjoyed watching him with her. We all really enjoyed our times together. That's what I want in return. I want him to enjoy me with someone else. GASoccerman... what makes you want a threesome with another man rather than another woman?? Some men have that in them and others do not. I have it in me that I thoroughly enjoyed him being with another woman, but he's lacking the same with me being with another man. I guess what really has me agitated is that he's a selfish man. He has a lot of hobbies and I am always second best to them... ALWAYS. I know I'm not his number one. Hunting and softball come first all the time every time. Oh yeah, another major key point here is that his libido is LOW. He is by far not your average man. He doesn't care if he gets sex or not. He is not the type to want it every night. When he's busy doing his hobbies, he won't even think about sex. If you read my first post on this whole forum, I might mention that sex is always on his terms... when he wants it. Never ever when I want it. I approach him and he denies me. Twelve years of this and I shut down. I will no longer approach him for sex, no matter how badly I want it b/c I'd rather deal with the frustration of wanting/needing it than the pain of rejection. So this is how I see it... he has his hobbies and thinks nothing of me. He never asks me for permission to do the things he likes to do. He never asks permission to go play ball or spend countless hours shopping for softball bats. He never asks permission to walk out the door to go hunting or do all things involved with hunting. He never asks permission from me to neglect me sexually. Why would it be so wrong for me to have a man on the side to take care of my sexual needs that my husband doesn't seem to give an inkling of a thought about? GA... sure I'm in lust. But I've wanted this situation for 15 years now. I suppress it as much as possible, but it still comes up every now and then. And every time I try not to think about it and just shove it back under the rug. It's still there. It still hurts to walk on it. I just feel like I'm missing out on my youth. Thanks you guys for your open mindedness... I appreciate it. __________________ :