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Healing · 06-25-2008, 12:19 AM

I see where you're coming from now.

Not that it isn't true that 2 guys and 1 girl have always been one of your fantasies, but a lot of it seems to be fueled by the perceived selfishness on your husband's part.

I can identify with that. In many ways you living 15 years like this makes me afraid because I have been living 2 years like this and I am rapidly going nuts.

Personally I'm not really adventurous enough to want to try having 2 men at the same time, and also I wouldn't have wanted or enjoyed seeing him with another woman with me (esp now after the EA, seriously...). I don't think you getting this arrangement will "solve" any problems with you and your husband. In fact because he is so self-absorbed you may end up drawing closer to the other man, and if he isn't fully comfortable with you being with someone else it will just cause tension.

Do you think perhaps you just want to do it partially to "get back" at your husband for being so selfish and to feel like you are thinking of your own needs for a change and not always his?

06-25-2008, 12:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
Healing Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 27	Re: You'll need an open mind for this one... I see where you're coming from now. Not that it isn't true that 2 guys and 1 girl have always been one of your fantasies, but a lot of it seems to be fueled by the perceived selfishness on your husband's part. I can identify with that. In many ways you living 15 years like this makes me afraid because I have been living 2 years like this and I am rapidly going nuts. Personally I'm not really adventurous enough to want to try having 2 men at the same time, and also I wouldn't have wanted or enjoyed seeing him with another woman with me (esp now after the EA, seriously...). I don't think you getting this arrangement will "solve" any problems with you and your husband. In fact because he is so self-absorbed you may end up drawing closer to the other man, and if he isn't fully comfortable with you being with someone else it will just cause tension. Do you think perhaps you just want to do it partially to "get back" at your husband for being so selfish and to feel like you are thinking of your own needs for a change and not always his?