Re: Am I really that bad?
To me, it also sounds like you could be more assertive without being a jerk. You have a right to have your concerns heard, understood, and acted on, just like he does. It's an uncomfortable thing, though, being assertive. It'll be especially uncomfortable for your DH, who's been used to having his own way...but what is it they say...."Marriage is a two way street"
You can do it! Read some books at the library, and give it a try on something little. You might be surprised. You don't have to yell or scream or be nasty to be assertive, just stand your ground, that's all. At the very least, instead of giving in to your husband, offer a compromise, if there is one....for example, on his day off, maybe you could come to some sort of agreement where he could have all day to relax if he wants except one hour where he takes the kids....or one hour where you and he have some "alone time" or whatever....but quite often a compromise is possible. If your DH isn't willing to compromise, or willing to try a little or give in, he's not respecting you, and at that point, you might need a counselor to help point that out to him....
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