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bhappy3 · 06-25-2008, 08:37 AM

Healing...

True to an extent that some of this is fueled by his selfishness. I just think that a wife should be your number one priority. I make him my priority. I always put him first. Yes, maybe now I am thinking about myself a little more. I am a sexual woman and he is not a sexual man. This makes for a very odd combination and very stressful as well. But it's also bad b/c he's the one with the say so of when we do it. Not me with the higher libido. I wish someone would understand this pain, it can be debilitating.

Here's how I see it... he has hobbies on the side. Hobbies that dont' involve me (sure I can sit at his softball games, but I can't do anything about his obsession with shopping for bats). Hobbies that take time from our marriage. Hobbies that interrupt his already unstable sex drive. So I see these hobbies as "the other woman".

Would me having a man on the side just for sexual purposes be such a bad thing if I'm still committed to my love to him? Somehow this all makes perfect sense in my head.

06-25-2008, 08:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
bhappy3 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 157	Re: You'll need an open mind for this one... Healing... True to an extent that some of this is fueled by his selfishness. I just think that a wife should be your number one priority. I make him my priority. I always put him first. Yes, maybe now I am thinking about myself a little more. I am a sexual woman and he is not a sexual man. This makes for a very odd combination and very stressful as well. But it's also bad b/c he's the one with the say so of when we do it. Not me with the higher libido. I wish someone would understand this pain, it can be debilitating. Here's how I see it... he has hobbies on the side. Hobbies that dont' involve me (sure I can sit at his softball games, but I can't do anything about his obsession with shopping for bats). Hobbies that take time from our marriage. Hobbies that interrupt his already unstable sex drive. So I see these hobbies as "the other woman". Would me having a man on the side just for sexual purposes be such a bad thing if I'm still committed to my love to him? Somehow this all makes perfect sense in my head. __________________ :