Atholk

It's an all purpose shotgun approach I'm posting. If you're good on some areas, you're good on those areas. If you're weak on some areas, work on those. If you're a high earner / important job guy for example, working more isn't going to net you much further benefit - but maybe fixing a few thing around the house and playing with the kids is going to net a big gain. If you're a househusband up to your ass in kids and stuff, maybe the physical fitness and dress sense is going to be the place to gain in. If you're a little heavy and the house is falling apart (raises hand), then working out and doing crap with tools is the way to go. (I'm getting better!) If you're a low wage guy, extra shifts and working on education is going to make her excited about you.

It's impossible for any one man to be the "perfect" man. It's best to play to our natural strenghts in our jobs and careers, but our relationships with our spouses demands a bit more of a generalized approach.

One of my weak areas is home maintaince for example. I'm just not terribly interested in it. But now I actually put a little effort into fixing dripping taps etc and it drives her batty with pleasure. (I put a cat door in and she... well lets just say I wondering where else I can put a cat door in!) Now I'm not going to fake being an actual plumber, anymore than I'm going to try and become a pro athlete. I'll do basic home maintainence just like I'll be basically fit. You push it to extremes and you become one dimensional I think.

Throw her a curve ball or too. Mostly the big thing to avoid with wives is boring them with the expectation of how you are and how things will be.

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