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Originally Posted by Sven
I honestly don't think words can be anything but harmful in a relationship crisis. I'm not a professional, but this is just my experience.
Listen. Do the stuff that YOU KNOW needs to be done (fix, clean, etc.). And don't say a thing if it's not positive. And don't struggle to find words - if they aren't there, then don't say anything.
Hell, I'm rambling. What do I know?
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Sven, there is allot to what you are saying. When a person feels neglected, starved for affection and attention, they come off as mopey and needy. I am going to post an update that explains what has happened in the last two days in detail. Suffice to say, I got mad, I told her what I felt and what I know to be rationally TRUE, that she needs to snap the f out of her own internal over-indulgent drama and back to reality and her own integrity which she always claimed was the foundation of her actions and being- told her I would BE HERE FOR HER to help with this if she only asks, but otherwise will step back from her and give her space to plot her next move.
After that, I gave her polite silence- no more initiating conversations or giving her puppy-dog eyes when she won't talk to me. And guess what! After a few hours of this, some spontaneous and light-hearted conversation erupted, and we both made each other laugh till our bellies hurt. This culminated in some play-fighting wrestling and her biting my neck "kind of lightly" which lead to some pretty passionate kissing, which in turn would have lead to foreplay, but I drew away at that point, she grabbed me back with both arms and just held me against her chest in a tight warm hug for about 10 minutes. I finally broke away from that, slowly and gently and left her looking at me and smiling, a little bewildered smile.
Sven, this chick has always been about actions over words. She is the least verbally communicative person I have ever known.
Thanks bro, for your thoughts, you probably know allot more than you think and I value your input!