BlueCreek

Wow. wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. Did I say, wow?

I thought you were exaggerating with that title. I have two kids, ages 1 & 4, and both are tougher than that. Your husband has got to be one of the most self absorbed persons I have ever heard of. I don't even know if calling him a baby is strong enough. I'm normally all about marriage counseling and that in almost all cases both people have to make adjustments for a marriage to get back on track. But seriously, you have one messed up husband.

You are a obviously a VERY strong person and I have no doubt you will come up with the best decision for yourself and your kids and then you'll act on it. I don't see any hemming or hawing in you, which is great. But the saddest thing for me is that you should not have to be worrying about this. For what you are going through now and will have to in the future, you deserve 100% total commitment and support from your husband. Even if he was acting like a baby before, that he didn't snap into shape immediately upon your diagnosis baffles me. I know you are asking for advice on what you can tell you husband to open his eyes and turn him around, but when just hearing your diagnosis couldn't change him, then I have no clue what you could possibly say to "man" like that to turn his actions around. I do hope others on here can give you real advice, and not just sympathy.

I really hope you have more family in your area to help you, and I'm sure you're already looking into MS support groups. But neither of those really quite replaces the emptiness you probably feel because you can't lean on the person that you chose to be the one who would support and stand by you the rest of your life. I don't know if it is possible for a person to fail their spouse in a worse possible way than to basically abandon them when they are needed most, and his emotional abandonment is just as severe as a physical one.

I really hope you do find the support you need, my prayers are definitely with you and your children.