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slickplant35 · 06-25-2008, 12:08 PM

I have been married for 18 years. Well lets start with the latest. He is in his own business and he subcontracts out of one place. He is a carpet installer. The place he subs out of is very slow, but looking at the local paper I saw 2 other stores looking for installers and I told him. Well he blew up and told me I am a money hungry pig and on and on and on. We had a big fight and I tried to explain and wrote it on paper what we need for the month and of course it was a waste of time, he didn't want to look at it. He is always ready to criticize me but when it's in black and white he couldn't care less it's whatever and goes on with his day. It's never settled. I feel like he has given up on our family and I don't know what to do. He has become a different person and I don't know him anymore.
Yesterday I called him to find out what he wanted for dinner and all of a sudden he started to carry on. He was telling me how he went into the office this morning and saw paperwork of another installer and saw what he made which is the same money as my husband and he's not dealing with it anymore so I said to him if he isn't making more than you what's the difference keep quiet there isn't much work to open your mouth. Well you would have thought the world was coming to an end. He said he can't take this anymore and sometimes suicide seems perfect and why do I needle him and I should know when he's in a bad mood to keep my mouth shut. I only called to see what he wanted for dinner. He is insane lately. He told me if I am so worried about money I should get another job and he makes so much more than me and just never ending nonsense. I hung up and after work didn't go home. When I got home he was sleeping and I just went to bed. This morning I wrote him a letter and left it by his cellphone and haven't heard from him. Over the weekend we were arguing and I didn't come home that night and guess what he didn't look for me. It is so out of character for me to do that something I have never done before and he couldn't have cared less. I just don't know how to handle this anymore. My daughter is 15 and I feel like if I leave it will destroy her. He is like another child in my life. He never understands what I need for him. I guess I am looking for suggestions.

06-25-2008, 12:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
slickplant35 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 34	Where to begin I have been married for 18 years. Well lets start with the latest. He is in his own business and he subcontracts out of one place. He is a carpet installer. The place he subs out of is very slow, but looking at the local paper I saw 2 other stores looking for installers and I told him. Well he blew up and told me I am a money hungry pig and on and on and on. We had a big fight and I tried to explain and wrote it on paper what we need for the month and of course it was a waste of time, he didn't want to look at it. He is always ready to criticize me but when it's in black and white he couldn't care less it's whatever and goes on with his day. It's never settled. I feel like he has given up on our family and I don't know what to do. He has become a different person and I don't know him anymore. Yesterday I called him to find out what he wanted for dinner and all of a sudden he started to carry on. He was telling me how he went into the office this morning and saw paperwork of another installer and saw what he made which is the same money as my husband and he's not dealing with it anymore so I said to him if he isn't making more than you what's the difference keep quiet there isn't much work to open your mouth. Well you would have thought the world was coming to an end. He said he can't take this anymore and sometimes suicide seems perfect and why do I needle him and I should know when he's in a bad mood to keep my mouth shut. I only called to see what he wanted for dinner. He is insane lately. He told me if I am so worried about money I should get another job and he makes so much more than me and just never ending nonsense. I hung up and after work didn't go home. When I got home he was sleeping and I just went to bed. This morning I wrote him a letter and left it by his cellphone and haven't heard from him. Over the weekend we were arguing and I didn't come home that night and guess what he didn't look for me. It is so out of character for me to do that something I have never done before and he couldn't have cared less. I just don't know how to handle this anymore. My daughter is 15 and I feel like if I leave it will destroy her. He is like another child in my life. He never understands what I need for him. I guess I am looking for suggestions.