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Originally Posted by swedish
I would flat out tell him that you cannot work, run the household and take care of your health while he sits around adding to your workload and not helping at all & you are not going to do it anymore....give him an ultimatum...go back to work, start counseling & put some effort into getting well or I'm done.
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Based on your husband's reactions so far, I have serious doubts that anything you can say will help your husband get with the program, but this is pretty solid advice, you may have no choice but to go the ultimatum route. After the kids are all put to bed, turn of the tv, sit in front of him and tell him flat out the free ride is over. Tell him that you simply cannot handle an extra "baby" any more and that you need him to fulfill what he promised the day you were married and support you from now on. Let him know in total detail exactly how incredibly difficult it is for you to go through this, work, manage a household, and raise four kids, but if necessary you will do it alone because taking care of four babies alone is still better than five.
Maybe I'm being harsh, but while I know how selfish people can be, it is just unfathomable to me that a spouse can be so incredibly self centered given the circumstances. I'm so frustrated by this and it's not even happening to me.