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mr.niceguy · 11-20-2009, 08:45 PM

I have caught my wife having EA's with other guys in the past and she always played it off and stayed calm. Past 3 years. In January I walked in on her and another woman. I was shocked but invited in so in shock I did. Two days later I find that she is still talking to a man 2 years earlier the told me she met in France but they were just friends but by her reaction I knew it was more but put it off. One week later find that she is pregnant with our first child(yes he is mine) 7 months into the pregnancy after many talks and me finally getting trust back for her I found she was still talking to this guy and I was far from happy. I was pretty much devastated she was an hour away and not answering her phone so I went there to confront her. She promised again not to speak with him. After she blocked his email and number I got an email from him telling me some nasty things some true some not. She told me she could never speak to him again after he badmouthed her the way he did. After all this our son is born we love him as all parents should and I love being a daddy but don't have deep feelings for my wife since I found out she was still talking to him at 7 months pregnant. I have had friends along the way helping me get through my depression (Diagnosed 3 years ago) and a couple know every detail because they were there for me. While looking for online forums to help me think I ran across one that sounded familiar and found that it was my wife and she did have more than the affairs I knew of. Also found that she met this french guy on the forum. (kick in the nuts)She was going through tough times and was looking for herself but I feel destroyed even though she wants me now. The worst thing I ever said to her was call her a *****(not proud of that one) I guess I could really use a good success story to help me out and some kind words. I love her! I am honest with her in every way telling her I have thoughts of going out and having sex with any woman who would with me and that I am not in love with her currently. We married shortly after high school and we know people go through phases of in love and not in love and change over time. We will always love each other as first true loves and the parent of our child.

No insurance or money for a counselor but I have tried the county ones and they made things more confusing and I truely hated it. I am planning to look into it again even though I have had bad experiences in the past.

Thank you
Mr. Niceguy
Struggle every day with this.

11-20-2009, 08:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
mr.niceguy Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 10	Trying to move on with US. I have caught my wife having EA's with other guys in the past and she always played it off and stayed calm. Past 3 years. In January I walked in on her and another woman. I was shocked but invited in so in shock I did. Two days later I find that she is still talking to a man 2 years earlier the told me she met in France but they were just friends but by her reaction I knew it was more but put it off. One week later find that she is pregnant with our first child(yes he is mine) 7 months into the pregnancy after many talks and me finally getting trust back for her I found she was still talking to this guy and I was far from happy. I was pretty much devastated she was an hour away and not answering her phone so I went there to confront her. She promised again not to speak with him. After she blocked his email and number I got an email from him telling me some nasty things some true some not. She told me she could never speak to him again after he badmouthed her the way he did. After all this our son is born we love him as all parents should and I love being a daddy but don't have deep feelings for my wife since I found out she was still talking to him at 7 months pregnant. I have had friends along the way helping me get through my depression (Diagnosed 3 years ago) and a couple know every detail because they were there for me. While looking for online forums to help me think I ran across one that sounded familiar and found that it was my wife and she did have more than the affairs I knew of. Also found that she met this french guy on the forum. (kick in the nuts)She was going through tough times and was looking for herself but I feel destroyed even though she wants me now. The worst thing I ever said to her was call her a *****(not proud of that one) I guess I could really use a good success story to help me out and some kind words. I love her! I am honest with her in every way telling her I have thoughts of going out and having sex with any woman who would with me and that I am not in love with her currently. We married shortly after high school and we know people go through phases of in love and not in love and change over time. We will always love each other as first true loves and the parent of our child. No insurance or money for a counselor but I have tried the county ones and they made things more confusing and I truely hated it. I am planning to look into it again even though I have had bad experiences in the past. Thank you Mr. Niceguy Struggle every day with this.