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Originally Posted by Atholk
If your wife hasn't been home all day, all the mess in the kitchen was made by you. It's her job to clean up someone else's house as their servant. Perhaps she dislikes that feeling when she comes home. Clean the damn kitchen up and stay married.
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to the original poster,
and too add, after you clean up the kitchen
you should still have plenty of time to do things
for her and your children....
If it were me in her situation I'd left and sought a man who was a loving spouse and partner to me, in ways that you do not seem to be able to provide for her, or most other women in that they would give thanks for...and I get the feeling the reason she hasn't done so ( walked away already ).... has to do with her upbringing ( as awful as you seem to say it was)
and that she is trying her best to work with a very difficult marriage,
difficult job... and those things combined that most women would not be able to tolerate even for a short time.
That your parents raised children and did not divorce in no way means they had a happy marriage.
It only means one of your parents was most likely very, very, very tolerant........ for some reason that may have a well intentioned, but very misguided thing to do... resulting in many problems for THEIR children... like unrealisitc expctations about what love and marriage are all about.
Lastly, the number of children a man has has NO BEARING
on his spousal or his parental competance.
and often children from even the most terrible circumstances
filled with very problematic matters and having less than most, grow to be the best of people.
If you are in any way telling her she is "less than ideal" because of her childhood situation, you are being very cruel to her in untold ways.
Just curious, but how many of the children
you were raised with have happy healthy long term marriages?